It is like everything started to turn green overnight. I really noticed it traveling to see mom this weekend.
I spent most of the weekend with mom. I am concerned about mom. She is having some minor issues with living on her own. I would like her to consider moving into a place where she can be looked after rather than looking after herself. She does not get around as well as she used to and I think it is becoming incrementally worse. She seems a little smaller. I think she is coming around to the idea of moving but it might be a tough sell.
I stopped to see a friend on the weekend. He lives across the road from where my good friend that died last September lived. My friend's widow and kids moved off the quarter a few months ago. He had a motorcycle that he wanted to pass down to his son, his intention was to buy another one, and when his son was old enough they could go on rides together. I found out the bike was sold. If I knew it was going to be sold I would have bought it and held it for his son. Some of what is going on bothers me, the sale of the bike certainly did. Everything else is being parted out and the land will soon be up for sale.
Enjoy your time while you are here. Make your intentions known and put them in writing. Otherwise there is a good chance no one will respect your wishes when you are gone.
As an old fat man, I think your last paragraph is a lot more important than most folks will consider it to be.
ReplyDeleteAssisted Living is a great thing if you can get into a good place! I have some older friends in various ones in Edmonton and they love it! And another older friend in St Albert is busy looking for one too.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more with your last paragraph. When I had a health issue some years back I updated my will (and keep it up to date...things change), bought a plot in a beautiful country cemetery and had a headstone installed. I feel better knowing that it's all settled.
ReplyDeleteDarn shame Mom didn't have any kids to take care of her .
ReplyDeleteIf only. I look after her finances, pick up groceries for her, and do other assorted tasks. I have offered several times to have her move in with me, she has always refused. I cannot be there as often as I would like.
DeleteBeen there with my Dad, finally Niece and I gave him no choice. We hated to do it, but even if he moved in with either of us, he's still be alone many hours a day. At least the place he went to had other retired farmers he could talk to and reminisce with if he wanted to, plus 3 meals a day. He wasn't happy but after a couple of months admitted that not sitting in the house looking at all the things he couldn't do any more was kind of nice.
ReplyDeleteYes, final wishes must be in writing *AND* written by, or at least guided by, someone who knows the laws of the state. My sister hand wrote a rambling letter regarding a friend, except most of her estate was covered by beneficiaries and TOD titles, so the friend's imagined windfall pretty much vanished. And it's not a once and done thing to make estate planning documents - what made sense when written sometimes doesn't make sense 10-20 years later. Births, adoptions, deaths, marriages, divorces, family fallouts, all can change who you'd like to benefit from your passing.
I am near the point where I am going to have to give an ultimatum. I do not want to.
DeleteI have a will and it is current. I do not want to leave a mess for someone to sort through.